September 2010 - Ask me anything
"I'm scared that we may lose our sisterly bond"
My sister and I were not very
close as children, but later on we became inseperable and our
husbands and children got along, which made for a very happy family
life. Now, our children are grown up and we are both recently
widowed. We do a lot of things together and are always there for
each other. But now she's suggested we should move in together
and suddenly I'm not sure. In many ways it would be ideal,
financially and in other ways, but I'm worried that it might
spoil what has become a very valuable relationship. Anne
DENISE SAYS: You're quite right to be so
cautious, but if approached sensibly this could be a very happy
solution. Financial and legal details need to be hammered out. For
example, if it remains your sister's house and she dies,
leaving it to her children, what will happen to you? Who will pay
all the bills for repairs etc? Who decides on décor and
furnishings in the home, and will there be enough room for two
people's precious possessions? Who has charge of the remote
control? Dealt with in advance, these things are easily settled.
Left to 'goodwill', they can cause havoc. You also have to
think about your children. They need to feel at home wherever you
are living - will you have your own space? And the same goes for
your friends. If it's your sister who moves in to your home,
you have the same problems in reverse. Once you have attended to
the sort of details I've mentioned, you could always give
living together a three-month trial period before either of you
parts with their own home? Then, if you find you can't coexist,
you have an escape route. Good luck to you both.
To read more from Denise Robertson either turn to page
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