Keep the love alive!
Valentine’s Day isn’t just for those in the first flushes of love. For long-term partners it can be a chance to invest some much-needed time and effort into nurturing and enriching your relationship. Read on for some ideas on how you can bring a renewed sense of vitality to your union – and keep the home fires burning!
Boost your confidence
It’s difficult to be happy with your partner if you’re not feeling good about yourself. What will boost your self-esteem? It might be going back to the gym, getting back on your bike or taking up walking again. It could be a new hairstyle, outfit or makeover? Confidence is key to success – even in affairs of the heart.
Reconnect with each other
Either before you get out of bed in the morning, before you go to sleep at night or any other time during the day – sneak off and have ten minutes of uninterrupted conversation. Power down all your electronics; make eye contact and just talk. It doesn’t need to be serious – just talk about your day and what your plans are for tomorrow. Have light-hearted chitchat. It will help stop you from drifting apart from one another and it help bring the spark back.
Start doing things together
Often, those who have been together for a long time start to live their own lives, gradually doing less and less with their partners. Make a vow to start doing at least one activity together each week. Go for a walk, watch a film, even shop for and cook a meal together once a week. It will bring you closer and give you shared experiences to bond over.
It’s worth going out of your way to have a good laugh, especially if things have been rocky. Go to a place where you used to laugh or where there’s a good chance of laughter. Maybe look at old photos of the two of you. That moment when you exchange a look and end up laughing, often over a shared memory, is the best way to understand each other again.
Plan a project or adventure
Sit down and brainstorm the things you’ve been wanting to do but haven’t got round to. It might be some work on the house, a trip somewhere exotic or even getting your own allotment. Whatever it is, work out how you are going to achieve it –together. Working together towards a target is bound to bring you closer, although you may have to agree to disagree at times!