“My daughter has hit the terrible teens”
My eldest daughter has turned into a monster and is making my life a misery. Over the last year she hit 14 and has become disrespectful, a bully to her brothers and sisters, she lies, she is rude and at times I can’t believe it’s the same child. I just don’t know what to do. I was not like this when I was her age. She has all the things I longed for at her age and yet it never seems enough and it’s causing me to become depressed. I love her but I don’t like her and I feel terrible for it – a mother not liking her own child. I just don’t know what to do with her. Please help. Kathleen
I understand how you feel and believe me, you’re not alone. Quite often, a mother’s early menopause can coincide with her daughter’s adolescence. In time, both situations pass and mother and daughter are reconciled again – so don’t despair. I suggest you talk first to your GP. He or she can help with your depression and help you to regain your usual stamina. Then talk to Family Lives on 0808 800 2222. They can really help with emotional support and practical advice. Make sure that there is nothing happening at school or with friends that is causing her stress. Use humour when you can and remember, however tough she may seem, your loving daughter is still inside there and will return to you one day.